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Ending a Relationship
by cr-admin May 31, 2017

strong>Ending a failed romance is a big decision, often made worse by knowing you have to break somebody’s heart. The actual thought of facing your soon-to-be-ex with the news can make you anxious, even frightened. Sometimes it seems easier to continue with what isn't working than to stir up the tsunami that is rejection. But, if the relationship isn't right, it's not fair to keep the other person hanging on with hope; besides, the longer you wait, the more time you are wasting when you could be in a happier relationship. When you deliver the news, you might say, “It’s not you, it’s me,” “I don't think this is working,” “We just don’t have enough in common,” or “I'm just not ready.” Whatever words you settle on, please make sure the person you’re saying them to hears them first, in person, from you, and has time to digest them before you spread the word that you’re single again. Be kind and refrain from announcing the news on Facebook, Instagram, or other social media to keep your partner's (and your own) dignity intact out of respect for what you once had between you. A few other thoughts – try not to do it in a place that has been special to you as a couple when things were good; stay calm, as the recipient of the news may not take it well; avoid blame; and don’t throw insults in the heat of the moment. Finally, when you’ve said your last good-byes, which may be teary, give yourself some breathing room to experience the aftermath. You may have wanted this ending, but it’s still a transition and it’s okay to feel deflated, even when it was the right move for both of you. – Helen Susan Edelman, LiveSmart project Director, livesmart@classroomenrichment.org; www.facebook.com/crlivesmart   

Times Union - Edited and written by Helen Edelman

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